The Twin Flame Experience is Not About Reunion…

The Twin Flame Experience is Not About Reunion…

9da9415af113fc45b9e5074fdead107d The Twin Flame experience is horrifyingly intense. It feels inescapable. Overtaking, so ultimate and so awesome. There’s good, there’s bad. No matter how long we’ve been numb or what vows we have made in the past to swear off love, meeting your Twin Flame inspires passion that doesn’t know how to quit. Passion that surpasses greater capacity to love than we have ever known. You can’t cut the cord. That would be too easy. This is about learning and if you were able to cut the cord, you would be able to cut your lesson. The Universe allows us to create our reality, but as far as I have seen, the Universe will never let you skip out on a lesson. Lessons that we need to learn keep manifesting themselves through people, circumstances and events, until we overcome them. You only think about lessons you are still learning. You don’t sit around and ponder things that you’ve already mastered. Just like you don’t sit around pondering addition and subtraction. There’s no point. So, when the lesson is over, you stop thinking about it and the manifestation transforms into something else that reflects your current state of being. There is something very important to understand about the Twin Flame Phenomenon. This experience is so intense and amazing. It’s so easy to romanticize, because of the intense attraction and love. But the bottom line is that it isn’t about romance. It’s about growth. Growth always takes priority. Many of you want answers. You want to know what the other person is thinking. You want to know if you will ever reunite or if it’s even possible. These are all 3rd dimensional ideas that really aren’t important. I know that you want to know what they are thinking, if they are learning and benefitting and what the point is of it all. So, I am telling you, the point is for you to evolve into higher and higher states of consciousness. From 3rd dimensional ways of thinking into 4th and 5th dimensional ways of thinking. From a 3rd dimensional perspective, there is no escaping this phenomenon. There is no refuge. There is no way around these intense feelings. From a 3rd dimensional view, it’s all about love and heartbreak being two sides of the same coin. This is a manifestation of the parts of you that feel incomplete or unloved. heart-incomplete The idea that something can complete you is the ultimate romance story. That something can save you and make you better than you ever were before. I’m not saying that these things don’t happen, or that they can’t happen. I am just saying that nothing is going to come of thinking that you need saving. That you need someone else to make you whole.  A lot of you are up to date with this realization, but you still aren’t there yet. You still aren’t truly living it and believing it. You still are somewhere in the past. Look, I have been where you are. I have felt the unrelenting, never ceasing reminders, aches and pains. I have been there, where there was no way out. But I can tell you that there is a way out. You must know this…

The Twin Flame experience is not about reunification. 

It’s about overcoming the greatest of obstacles.

By finding a way out of pain, you prove to yourself that you are indeed whole, worthy and loved.

There is no such thing as needing something outside of yourself in order to be complete. There is no such thing as there only being one person in the world who can serve as a magnificent lover. Reunification may or may not happen, but the hardest thing to achieve in this process, is the ability to move on completely. This is the Challenge. Need attracts more need. Longing attracts more longing. For as long as we romanticize about this from a 3rd dimensional viewpoint, there is no moving on. There is no self discovery of wholeness. There is no recovering from this long lost love perspective. So, you have to come out of that.


Entertain other possibilities.

Are you even entertaining other possibilities? I know that once you meet your Twin Flame, the idea of being with another can feel repulsive, but we are divine and our possibilities for ourselves are not limited. Allow yourself to recognize this. Remaining unfailingly attached to one person, a person who, for whatever reason, cannot be there for you in the capacity that you want, is simply not a self serving or a self loving action. The story does not matter. Be more light hearted about possibilities that the Universe can open up for you. Entertain ideas of good outcomes that aren’t the Twin Flame reunification romance. You might be closing yourself off to other possibilities if you are seeing reunification as the only possible doorway to happiness. It is for sure, that if you cannot release the thought to the Universe, that the chances for reunification are lower.

If you make the Twin Flame experience about reunification, you will be unhappy until it happens. Which means that you may feel incomplete for the remainder of your days. The purpose is to find wholeness, to grow and to overcome all obstacles. To bring our light through the tremendous amounts of darkness we face. What glory is there, when there is very little to overcome? What great glory there is at the end of a great victory. We have chosen this difficult experience because we know that we are victors. Create your reality. Make some decisions. Come to new conclusions. Do whatever it is that you need to do to be happy. For some of you, reunification is part of your process and you are blessed with ability to work on that. If that is your path, then it’s been put before you as a possibility and that is amazing and wonderful. But, there are so many of you who feel trapped, like you do not have many choices. So many of you between a rock and a hard place. So many of you who are being ignored and not recognized by your Twin. Demonstrate self loving actions towards yourself. Whatever it takes. Do it for yourself. Isn’t that part of what we see as romantic? Someone who will do whatever it takes? Do that for yourself. Believe and choose the direction you want to go in. Choose something new and good. You’ve got options. You are divine, Love.

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Dear Twin Flame, We All Have our Fears about Intimacy, here’s how to get through it…

Dear Twin Flame, We All Have our Fears about Intimacy, here’s how to get through it…

Valentine’s Day is my favorite. Happy V-Day…

All of my messages are derived from a Unity consciousness, which speaks to me always. Through this gift, I am able to experience my love for you. My love for you which is true, real and pure. I have no expectations, I just love you. 590_vintage_valentine_card_03_eps10

I discovered my fear of intimacy, and I wasn’t expecting it. I thought If I had any fears, it wasn’t of intimacy. Fear of intimacy manifests differently for everyone. It can be in the form of holding back. Reservations about falling in love, inability to communicate emotions, having trouble with physical touch, showering together, fear of moving too fast, or with falling asleep in someone’s arms…

Intimacy is hard. You have to open yourself up to judgement. To rejection. All the things that you don’t like about yourself, you have to let someone else see them. All of your fears, someone is watching. Someone is seeing you, the good, the bad and all that is there to be seen. You become transparent. It’s really hard to dissolve. To be ok with it. I realized that I don’t want to be seen. Literally. It’s something I can’t explain. Not being able to look someone in the eye when you think they are seeing you. Hoping that as you walk by, that they aren’t seeing you… All I can think about is what if  all other people are seeing about me is my flaws? What if that’s all they can see?

Every blemish. Every imperfection. What if they see that and they don’t see who I am? What if they don’t accept my deepest truth? That is the fear.

It’s hard to just be ok about it, when you don’t feel ok in your own skin. Them looking at you, seeing you, hearing you, knowing your deepest thought. What you really think on an emotional level. Your hurts, your pains and why they are holding you back now. There;s so many things we don’t want to admit, things we even hide from ourselves. Getting to the heart of those things and overcoming them is so much harder than what I have ever experienced. I thought I was over my fears, then, so many of them decided to come up to be seen. I guess we can only deal with so much at one time. We can only transcend so much at one time. That’s why things come up when we think we are through with them. I have things to work on, but I can do it. I can be free and open and totally ok with being seen. I will…

Because I am divine and beautiful and there is nothing that can change that truth.

To be seen. To be known. What it means to be truly vulnerable. The scariest thing in the world. You don’t even know how scary until you are facing it, yourself. Until you love someone and you realize that they are actually seeing you, and you care. There are parts of ourselves that we don’t know, recognize or understand. Parts that are buried deep, under many layers of denial. Those things come up when you love someone. Your deepest fears, fears you didn’t even know you had, come to the surface to rock the boat and be seen. It’s actually a good thing. You can transcend what you can see. You can’t overcome what you don’t see. You must face your fears in order to overcome them. Someone has to show you your deepest shadows, so that you can overcome. intimacy-72769 Love is such a gift. My heart is overcome with love for you. My adoration has no beginning and no end. I love that you showed me, myself. I love that you made me vulnerable. I’m glad that you allowed me to see my fear of intimacy. But still lies the question, can I let you see me? Not can you see me, not am I willing, but how do I even do that? How do I let go? How do I melt into you with no reservations about it? How do I dissolve my ego, when the ego tricks me? The ego convinces me of things I don’t need. Like intimacy. Like to be seen. The ego convinces me that I am all of these things that I am not. I have to look closely at my heart to find what is true.

I want you. I want to let you see me. I want to melt into you, peacefully. But, I don’t know how…

I suppose I am treading new waters. I will set my eyes upon this goal. To be myself, with no reservations. To be seen, no matter what. To be myself and to love myself for it. To be seen and to love to be seen. We are switching perspectives now. We are traveling into the new. Into what is wanted. We are practicing a vibration of love, acceptance and melding together. I can’t be myself if I can’t be myself with you. I learn myself through you. I know myself because of the way I feel when I’m with you. You give me so much and I want to be free. I want to be free to love you and to accept all of your love. I want to be like puddy in your hands. I want to let you shine your warmth upon me. I want to feel your love. I want to accept every good thing you project to me, and not deflect your love with my fear. I don’t want your love to bounce off of me, I want to receive it. I don’t want you to feel my fear, I want you to feel my love.


I think that when it comes to intimacy, we must set our intentions. By default we are experiencing fear. With intention we can experience all of the love that we want to experience. Set your intention, set your mind, set your goal and act upon it every day. Look your lover in the eyes and receive their love. If you should look away, do not look away in fear. Never look away from that which you love. Keep your gaze upon it and allow yourself to feel love.  Allow yourself to melt. Allow love to be projected onto you, without avoiding it, fearing it or deflecting it. Let yourself have what you really want. Focus your intention to love and be loved. All the way…




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How to Get the Truth, Trust in your Heart

How to Get the Truth, Trust in your Heart

All of my messages are derived from a Unity consciousness, which speaks to me always. Through this gift, I am able to experience my love for you. My love for you which is true, real and pure. You are loved.

Sweet lover of mine…


Dear Twin Flame,

In this Twin Flame experience, there is very little reassurance. People come to me and they want me to confirm this or that. It’s ok for you to come to me. In fact, it’s a great idea, because I will definitely help you validate your truth for you. The truth is that you already know the truth. Everything that I tell you, you already know in your heart. When you can’t talk to me, you need to know that. You have to learn to trust in yourself. In what you know to be true in your heart. You have to learn to trust what you feel in others, above what they say or don’t say. When you are connected to someone, the truth is so blatant, and yet, you will still have your doubts about it. Please trust in your heart. You can feel what your Twin Flame feels about you. You can feel the truth in them and you can feel it in others as well. This experience is teaching you to become more acquainted with your own guidance. Listen to it. Listen to the voice of your heart. The tugging of your soul. Let your heart guide you. It will never steer you wrong.


When I see you, I feel you. I feel what you feel inside. Those eyes can’t hide what lies behind them.  That face has told me all of your secrets. There are some things you just can’t hide. I was surprised when I saw it. That look that tells all. That look that can’t be faked. That look I’ve seen before, that means only one thing. You don’t have to tell me how you feel. I know. I like to hear it. I love everything you say. But I listen most closely to those thing that you don’t say. Those things that I know because I pay attention to you. Because I am connected to you and in tune with you. Those things I know because I feel you. Those things I know because I love you.

To feel what someone else feels is one thing, to feel the same way is another. I love when you look at me, when I feel what you feel and I smile, because I feel the same way. There is little that can compare to that. And, although you haven’t told me all I want to hear, I don’t push you for it, because I saw it in your eyes. I feel it in your touch. I feel it when you are next to me. When you look at, me with those eyes of love, there is no misunderstanding.


So, I let you be what you be. I give you the chance to be it, without interrogating you and without trying to sway you. I want you to come to conclusions on your own. I know that you love me, but I want you to tell it to me because you realized it, not for any other reason. I want to give you that chance to know it for yourself and to know it for sure, without my influencing you to it. That is a gift. A gift of freedom and I give it to you because I love you. There is no other reason why.

You, my dear, are very special to me. I have been sifting through the contrast life has been bringing me for so very long. I have been coming to know in more and more detail, that which I want and that which I do not want. I have been coming to know what is most important, and I have found those things in you. Those things that I value the most. Those things that I have found are far and few between, have come to me through you. It is quite surreal, and I don’t take it for granted, even for a second. I know good things are hard to come by. I know a good thing when I see one and I see great things in you. You stand out in the room. You stand out to me. There is none like you in my world. No other I adore as much, and I do adore you. I adore being with you, your voice, your words… I adore feeling your energy and how connected I am to you. I adore the way that you look at me, with that look that tells me everything I need to know. I am no fool. I recognize you as a divine gift. One who has taught me much about love. I thank you for that as well.

There is no way for me to tell you the truth of what I feel inside. The truth doesn’t come from words, you simply know it because you know what you feel. I know that what I feel in you is the truth and I trust that above all that you say, or don’t say. It’s how I know everything. It’s how I know that you mean it when you kiss me. It’s how I know that you want me to stay. It’s how I know that you wish you could have more, but you hold back anyway.


There is no way for me to tell you that I love you. There is no way for me to tell you how much I cherish your heart. There is no way for me to convince you that I would never hurt you. There is no way that my words could ever accomplish any of this. Just like I know you, because I pay attention to what you don’t say. You will simply have to trust yourself. You will simply have to remember how you felt when you were with me and what you know when you look into my eyes. You will simply have to know how you felt when you were with me. You will simply have to feel my love. You have seen my face, you have seen that I love you, you have seen that you are special to me. Everything that you need to know is already there. You have witnessed it for yourself. You have felt the truth and you know it. Words mean so little to you and to me, when we can feel the truth in each other.

Words are fantastic, they are beautiful, but they are just extensions of what we already know. They are just a way to further what I have seen in your eyes and what you have seen in mine.

…And sometimes, words can’t be trusted, but the truth remains the same. You can trust what you feel in me.

Please trust in your heart. Trust in what you already know. Trust in what my eyes told you, as I trust what yours told mine. Trust in what you felt when you were with me. Trust in what you know when you see my face. Trust what your heart tells you. Your heart is the best guidance that you have and the best guidance there is.


There are times for words, but not always. Sometimes words are just not enough and sometimes we can’t have the words that we want. Sometimes, we have to know. Sometimes, we have to discern the words that we hear. You do that with your heart. You can feel love, you can feel truth and you can feel when someone means what they say. The same way that you can feel bad vibes, and cruel intentions. Be discerning, listen to your gut and your intuition. Know that what you feel is true, and when you feel love, don’t ignore it. See it for what it is. Humans have a fearful nature. To doubt is part of the human condition. Understand this, and that skepticism can be overcome with awareness. Don’t let your mind spin and get in the way of what you know in your heart. Know love when you feel it. The mind turns a blind eye to what the heart knows, and what the heart knows, it knows.

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The Problem In Relationships… Wouldn’t You Like to Know?

The Problem In Relationships… Wouldn’t You Like to Know?

All of my messages are derived from a Unity consciousness, which speaks to me always. Through this gift, I am able to experience my love for you. My love for you which is true, real and pure. You are loved.


There is one theme, one commonality among the downfall of all relationships and it has to do with focus.

Focus is a choice

Being human is hard. Living this life is hard and much of our lives are spent worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. Especially when we find something good. We go through a lot of shit and all of that experience makes it that much harder to believe That something can actually be good. Bad experiences have a tendency to make us downright paranoid. As soon as we catch feelings, we go on alert and pull back. We become very cautious.

Protect your heart

so, we weigh The pros and the cons, the pluses and the minuses, the good and the bad. We measure, we observe, we predict and we come to conclusions. But, conclusions based on what?

See, you’ve got to understand what happens when we see something good. Something really good. Something we really want. Something that actually makes us feel vulnerable. It’s a very scary thing. Good things don’t come along that often, especially in relationships… Ironically, this is exactly the culprit of sabotage.

We see something good. Something we want. But as soon as we start to feel vulnerable, we can taste the defeat on our lips. We can smell the disappointment and we remember the what it feels like when our heart sinks. We are reminded of our pains. Of all the times we got our hopes up, only to be crushed. We associate love with pain. Hence, vulnerability feels like danger and in response to the first sign of danger, all the defense mechanisms, walls, barricades and protective shields go up. Nothing can get in or out. Not pain and not love. We feel like we need protection. But ironically, this type of fight or flight response is a recipe for doom.


You cannot prevent pain by putting your walls up. You cannot prevent relationship issues with statistics. Putting a time requirement on relationship milestones is not going to ensure anything. Holding back doesn’t ensure anything. I will tell you what your best bet is. To be authentically you. When you feel love, be as true to that as you can. Don’t be so quick to doubt. Don’t be so quick to think it’s too good to be true. When you doubt, you act differently. You’re not as trusting, you’re not as kind and that energy gets through to your partner whether you know it or not. It affects all of your interactions, your response to them and their response to you.

Being vulnerable is a necessary evil. And I say this, not because being vulnerable is bad, but because we have given into a skewed perception that believes it to be bad. Even if you think it’s bad to be vulnerable, it is still necessary, because you can’t love without it. And what is a life without love?


Let me explain why vulnerablity is so crucial. It is a necessary component to love and the love to vulnerability ratio is always going to be 1:1. They are parallel. The reason is because vulnerability is a pure vibration. You have to be vulnerable in order to bear your true self. Vulnerability is a component of authenticity. Anything else is a construct of the ego filtered through a perception that is calculating risk. When we are calculating risk, we are making our decisions, our thoughts, words and actions based on that, as opposed to who we truly are authentically.

Simply put, If you are calculating risk, you cannot be yourself. If your core vibration is calculating risk in the expectation that something will probably go wrong, you’ve just put a wrench in the whole system and you are probably going to find evidence of what you most deeply suspect, regardless if it’s the actual truth.

So, here is the key. Where is your focus? As soon as we feel vulnerable, we start freaking out, getting scared and it brings our attention to all of the things that can potentially go wrong. We think about those things so that we can prepare and brace ourselves in some way. So that we can dodge a bullet and basically, not get hurt. As soon as we see our own vulnerability, we see the risk and start preparing for it. This is all for not because this game plan is actually not the most strategic formula for prevention. In reality, it is quite the contrary. You get what you think about the most and you get what you most expect. This is a reality on so many levels, but it’s even been proven on a subconscious level. That our conscious mind is controlled by the beliefs of the subconscious mind. It is the job of the subconscious mind to prove us right. Whatever you believe most strongly is what you will get, because you will actually be acting in accordance with what is most true for you, in your mind. You will be looking for the evidence and interpreting everything that you see, through that expectation.

When you start focusing on the negative, you will see evidence of what you are most strongly focused upon. Negative focus is like a guarantee that you will find what you are focused upon. this is reflected in the relationship. If you focus negatively, you will always find what you are looking for.

It’s a funny thing because when you filter your perception through a lense that is negative, you will find more of that just by virtue of your energetic standpoint. the opposite is also true. Start focusing positively. Look at all of the good and you will find it! When your focus is rooted in appreciation, suddenly, there are less problems! You notice less problems, you choose to let things go more easily, you pick your battles and because your energy actually has an affect on your partner, there’s actually less problems That arise to begin with. But regardless of what comes up, a positively focused standpoint is the key to minimizing all forms of negativity in a relationship. Where’s your focus?


We go through so much. We get hurt. We get scarred and after that, it’s really tough to believe In the good. It just is. But let’s take this to the next level. What if you’ve been through so much crap that you use it to fuel your appreciation for the good things that come your way. We can all get scared. But you have a choice. Every time that you feel afraid and you start pondering what can go wrong,  just bask in the appreciation for the positive aspects. That’s the reason you became afraid in the first place. Because you know you found something good. Something desirable. Something that you haven’t found before. So do not allow yourself to forget that. Do not allow yourself to focus negatively. Do not allow yourself to squander the goodness that has shown itself to you. Do not allow yourself to lower the chances of you actually getting what you want. It’s just an unnecessary risk. What’s going to happen is going to happen, no matter how strategic you think that you are. Honor the good things that come your way by #1 recognizing them as such and #2 cultivating an energetic environment that facilitates positive growth. You can do this by not polluting the energy with fear, doubt and entertaining ideas that don’t serve you or the relationship. If you are going to be in a relationship, you might as well give it the best chance its got, right?!

It doesn’t mean turn a blind eye. It doesn’t mean don’t use your brain. It means give it a good, honest chance. It means be conscious of your fears, expectations and make an effort to minimize your negative energetic input and to maximize your positive energetic input, because the difference in these energies are the difference between, not only the quality of your relationship, but literally, the life or death of it.

Don’t be so quick to come to negative conclusions. Don’t be so eager to take offense. The easiest way to see clearly is when you aren’t letting your ego and your fears be the lens that you view everything through. Know that you are loved. Focus positively. Don’t spend time pondering doom and gloom scenarios. Practice positive expectations. It will help you avoid sabotaging a good thing.

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Are You Holding Back? Conjuring Pure Love, Intention and Freedom…

Are You Holding Back? Conjuring Pure Love, Intention and Freedom…

All of my messages are derived from a Unity consciousness, which speaks to me always. Through this gift, I am able to experience my love for you. My love for you which is true, real and pure. You are loved.


Read beginning to end, You won’t regret it.


Dear Twin Flame,

Love has great meaning. There is always meaning for it. The Universe does not create things for no reason. And the Universe does not put things before you for no reason. So, why are you trying not to love? Why are you trying to cut cords and to forget and to keep yourself from feeling the things that you already feel! Love is the most natural way for you to feel! We muddy the waters of love with all sorts of other things. With social “norms” and the collective expectations of the way that things should be, or ought to be. The rules made up by some other person, somewhere, that some dumb-asses decided to follow. Get enough dumb-asses together, to follow an idea and suddenly, we are calling it normal. Yea, it’s normal, but just because the majority is doing something, doesn’t mean that it’s serving us. We ALL know that. Let me tell you something. The opinion of the collective consciousness is royally fucked up! There is absolutely no rhyme or reason to play the role of  the follower on this planet. Overall, people are all dealing with their own issues and there’s currently, more people practicing problems than solutions. There is currently more people looking for solutions than living the solutions. So, if you are deriving your own belief system from “social norms”, you may want to re-think the whole thing. We all put “normal” on a pedestal. Oh, this is what’s normal. This is what normal people do. Let me tell you what normal people do. It’s fucked up. you ready? Here we go…

Here’s what’s currently “normal” in this society:

Ignoring the the voice of the heart

Letting the mind “rationalize” itself out of making loving decisions

Making love irrational and illogical

To fear love

The association of love and pain. The collective thinks that love is painful

Holding back from being most authentic. The collective thinks the best way to be is to not express your feelings authentically.

The collective consciousness is always waiting for the other shoe to drop. If something amazing comes your way, the first thought is that it’s too good to be true. So, instead of being supportive of what you want with a pure, loving vibration, you’re inserting the negative energies of doubt. What a way to facilitate the outcome of what you really want.

It’s all backwards!

If you are following the collective consciousness, you will be encouraged to not follow the path of most joy, to not follow the calling of your soul, and instead, to invalidate it, fear it, ignore it, cover it up and see it as a weakness that will surely lead to your demise.

Let me tell you something, the above that I just mentioned, is all that is wrong in this world. If people weren’t afraid of love, if they didn’t see it as a source of pain or weakness, then the world would be that much more loving. Newsflash! Human beings are naturally loving!! We all remember loving openly when we were children. Loving our parents, pets, siblings and even having a romantic sense of love. It is true, there is cruelty out there. We all go through experiences where our love isn’t reciprocated. We experience disappointment. We experience ridicule and we are made to feel “wrong” by our parents and others. All of this is the root of the problem. Not the solution. Love is the solution.

Love should be cultivated as much as possible. Not the other way around.


Do you not realize that love is actually hard to come by? You can’t love just anyone. Love doesn’t show up when you want it to. You can’t make yourself love and you can’t make another love you. Connection cannot be found or forced at will. That makes connection oh, so valuable. When you find it, you gotta honor it. Don’t ever take connection for granted. Don’t ever take special people for granted. Don’t ever think it’s easy to come by, because, it’s not.

When you experience this Love and connection and then lose it, you will know what I am talking about. But why should you have to learn this through hindsight? Why do you have to lose something before you can give due credit?

Don’t be stupid.  Don’t take the love and connection for granted. Love must be honored when it arises. Connection must be honored when it arises. If it goes, it goes, but if it is there, it is there to be honored. These things are truly divine gifts.

  What’s serving you and What are you serving?

There are two different ways to react to a lesson, or situation. You are in charge of the perspective that you walk away with. The question is, is the perspective that you chose to walk away with, the most loving, authentic and good for you in the end? Is your new chosen standpoint the one that is actually going to serve you the most and add the most goodness into your life?

Here are the options that we have when we have a bad experience, it can go one of two ways. The first way is very common, but I think that overall, we can come to an agreement that it’s not really the choice that does the most good. The second one requires a tremendous amount of strength, confidence, compassion and steadfast trust in one’s worth and character in order to pull off. Here’s the two:

In a scenario where something is done to you that hurts you very much. Let’s say that someone you love screams at you, calls you terrible things or maybe they even harm you in some way. Maybe you are simply feeling rejected. We can all relate to this. You have two choice reactions that you can take away from this.

The Apple Doesn’t Fall Far From The Tree…

Choosing Fear Over Love As A Result Of Pain

1) You can accept that the world is cruel and that in order to protect yourself in the future, you have to harden your exterior and experience a far lesser amount of love and vulnerability in order to make sure that you will avoid pain if this scenario or one like it ever should occur again. The funny thing is that this approach is guaranteed to cause pain to others, repeating the cycle.

The main idea is prevention, which happens by way of turning the love dial way down and building the walls around our hearts way up. So that, not only are we keeping the pain out, we are also keeping the love out and the love that we may be inspired to will be smothered out and dulled down before it ever has a chance to escape those walls. This is the choice. Unfortunately, it’s probably the path most traveled. Hence, the cliche, “The Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.” Most people who have been hurt by others choose the death of love for the sake of eradicating pain, keeping the cycle going.

We are such intelligent creatures. We can dull our love down just enough, so that we feel a little and we can maintain a level of compassion and empathy, but not enough to put our hearts on the line. Not enough to embody the richness of an authentic love experience. It turns out that most people don’t even know what that is. We have such a clever way of pulling this off. But, this defense mechanism that we construct is a great source of pain, in itself, because we are teaching ourselves to live in fear. All of this gyration of building walls and strategically turning down our love dial is based in fear. You can’t escape that fact. Actions rooted in fear are the opposite of love, and will always lead to less love, more fear and more pain. It’s pretty ironic, after all. In reality, this where sabotage comes from.

The root intention behind an action will be reflected in the scenarios that play out. This is why purity, clarity, awareness and intention are so very important. We all want love. Period. If you are avoiding love in any way, that will play itself out in the scenarios that follow. This is a law of the Universe. Your state of being, your vibration is reflected in the hologram of life in the physical. This is a good way to figure out what is really happening inside of yourself, by looking at what is manifesting. If you are manifesting something that is undesirable to you, it’s time to reflect on your roots.

2) The second way to shift your perspective is to feel the pain and decide that you want to do everything in your power to make sure that if this is happening in the world, that you are not going to be the source. That you will do everything in your power to make sure that you do not subject another person to what you were just subjected to. It’s the most compassionate approach for yourself and for others. It takes awareness, humility, love, compassion, and to be quite honest, this behavior is the greatest mark of strength. Choosing the most loving and compassionate way of being is the path that is chosen the least, because it’s the most difficult to do. To not react with anger or fear, even when triggered or provoked, because your desire to not subject another person to that which you experienced is greater than your need to stroke your ego, maintain your status and cater to your sense of pride. Consciousness can out do anything. But, first, you gotta be aware. Which means being brutally honest with yourself. Are your decisions based in fear or freedom? What would it look like for you to be faithfully authentic, no reservations. What is your natural state?

I can honestly say that I took the path less chosen. Maybe not in every way. I slip up too, sometimes. I have established that despite the depths of my spiritual journey, I am undoubtedly, still human. I have my fair share of faults that are enough to continuously inspire me towards improvement. But I know pain. I am not talking to you from a perspective that hasn’t had a fair share of experience in this arena. I’ve experienced my fair share of atrocities, and after coming into contact with each painful experience, I just naturally came to the conclusion that I would never knowingly put another person through that which I had experienced. Put in this way, it is easy to understand. Because I feel, I have compassion. I choose compassion because I choose to feel. This is why it is important to allow ourselves to feel. You can’t understand what you have never experienced. You can’t relate to a feeling that you have never felt. It’s like trying to describe love or hate to someone who has never felt either of those things. Or trying to describe music to someone who doesn’t know sound, or color to someone who has never seen. See each painful experience as a blessing, because it gives you a choice. This is how compassion is born. This is how you learn.

Experience grants us the ability to relate and the opportunity to truly understand other people. To be understood is of upmost importance. Truly. We understand this intrinsically. This is why we feel so much love for people that we feel we understand and for people that we feel truly understand us. Resonance and love are much the same. Harmony and love, compassion and love, relate-ability and love, understanding and love.

Through pain, my choice was born. I remember my pain. The anguish. I remember the spears of anger being hurdled at me, the fury filling the room and feeling hopeless to escape. For the life of me, I couldn’t understand why it was necessary. Why there wasn’t another way. Why it had to be that. I decided that I would never bestow this anguish onto another person. Even if I became angry, I could deal with it in a way that wouldn’t cause the suffering that I had known, because, truly, suffering is unnecessary and we obliterate it one choice at a time. My desire to obliterate suffering is greater than my ego. Greater than my fear of vulnerability and greater than my desire for pride.

Ironically, by not needing to stoop in the name of pride or ego, that in itself is something to be proud of.

It’s a whole new way of being. That in itself is the ultimate validation. Validation that comes from the self. Humility doesn’t mean that you are without a healthy sense of worthiness. It means that you are so confident in your value, your worth and your position, that you don’t feel threatened by the actions of another. That you can let others be what they be and understand that what they choose to be has no bearing on your value. You are divine in nature and there is no thing that can change that, even a little. That is true self realization. That is an authentic sense of self. Knowing your value, without needing a shred of validation from anything outside of yourself. Imagine being that confident in your position, that you could love authentically and openly, without being influenced by the fear of rejection or non-reciprocation. That is total freedom. Freedom to be your true, unadulterated self. A whole new world, indeed. We are wandering far from the three dimensional way of being. This shift takes time, persistence and love. One baby step at a time.

So, you see, that your ability to love is directly correspondent with self love. Ignoring the voice of your heart is denying the self. Do you like being denied? Do you enjoy it when you are made to feel like your feelings aren’t legitimate or warranted? So then, why are you doing this to yourself? Why are you not allowing yourself to feel authentically? This shit matters. How are you treating yourself? Because how you treat yourself has a lot to do with how you are going to be able to treat others and the love that you will be capable of. I can love you because I love myself. I love myself enough to allow myself to be free. I love myself enough to allow myself total freedom to experience myself authentically. No reservations, no obligations, no rules, no judgements, no fears, no standards to uphold or people to please. What do I really feel and am I allowing myself to feel it? Am I holding myself back? Am I smoldering myself from feeling something that could be very beautiful because I prefer to not be vulnerable? Have I classified vulnerability as a weakness, or as a strength?  Am I orchestrating my behavior based on fear that something could go wrong? Are my actions dictated by the actions of others or what I suspect their standpoint might be? What’s your intention? What’s motivating you?  Are you giving yourself permision?

Transcending Fear

Call it out. Whatever you are feeling, own up to it. You are going to do what you are going to do. You are going to live authentically or not. You are going to live in fear or not. You are going to choose to love or not. But, whatever you do, come to terms with it. Acknowledge it and see it for what it is. Look at what you are doing and see it for what it is. Either you are going to orchestrate your actions out of fear or out of love. Recognize what you are doing. I am choosing to do this out of fear and that’s ok. I can choose that if I want to. The important thing is being aware of the choices that you are making. I am choosing to love and that’s ok. I can choose to do that if I want. It doesn’t make me weak and it’s not because I have no other choice. This is my choice and It’s ok that I choose that. Bringing this level of awareness is a really good way to transcend fear no matter what you are doing. The ego is an act of unconsciousness. The ego is always an act. It’s not really you. It’s you, pretending you are being you and the ego is very good at not breaking character. It’s ultra professional, not personal, not real. You transcend the grip of the ego, with conscious awareness. Getting to the heart of the matter. Pay attention!! Asking yourself the real reason why you are doing what you are doing. We all have the capacity to be good. We all have the desire to be good. This is the reason for regret and self improvement and things of that nature. Because, at our core, we want to be good. When you do something inauthentic, you know it. It doesn’t feel good. That’s the easiest way to know. A new desire is born. When you act out of fear, there’s a certain quality to that energy. It’s very different from love. Love feels better, if it’s really love. If it doesn’t feel good, it isn’t love.

First, pay attention. You have to know what is really happening within you. Be honest with yourself about why you are choosing to do what you are doing. Get to the root reason for your choices. Whatever you decide to do from there is fine. But. at least, when you look at the truth, you are no longer acting unconsciously and when you look at yourself and accept yourself, you can obliterate fear. It’s the honest looking part and the lovingly being self accepting part that is difficult. Get through that and you’ll transcend fear. It doesn’t mean that you will be perfect. It doesn’t mean you will never act out of fear again. It means you’ll pay more attention and give yourself more opportunity to act authentically, instead of playing out the part of some character constructed by the ego. When you are ok with you, fear is gone. All fear is a result of your own perspective. It’s a figment of your imagination.

Things can happen. But fear robs you of the joy of the now. All of your life is a series of now moments. Enjoy every one as fully as you can.


Love as fully as you can in every moment. You won’t float away. You won’t drown in a sea of love. You won’t become delirious when you are letting your emotions guide you and do what they want to do. That’s what people think. That they are going to get swept up and make a mistake and do something “stupid”. Love doesn’t make you do anything stupid. It is you who assigns meaning to the action when you perceive that it didn’t work out for you. Then, instead of acknowledging that nothing is permanent and seasons may come and go for their own reasons, you call love stupid. True love ebbs and flows like everything else. It has it’s moments. It comes and goes. The only time it’s going to haunt you is if you are fighting it on some level. And if you make a choice to live lukewarm, good luck, because lukewarm doesn’t make your heart race. Lukewarm doesn’t feel exhilarating. Lukewarm isn’t frisky, fresh, eager and exciting. Lukewarm is boring. What a way to live when life grants us no guarantees, lukewarm or otherwise.


I will follow my inspiration to love in every moment that it presents itself to me. My moments will be inspired. I don’t feel inspired in every moment. I don’t feel love in every moment. Some of my moments are restful, quiet and still. Some of my moments are the makings of discovery. Those moments that come before love. Those moments that lead up to inspiration. Contrast is not only ok, it is perfect. What matters is that when I feel inspired to love, that I allow myself the gift of that experience. That I let it flow. That I let it roll and go with it. In that moment, I am love and I am attracting more love. In that moment, I am enjoying life to the fullest. I am exploring the farthest corners of exhilaration and bliss that emotion has to offer. That life has to offer. In that moment, I am being myself. I am loving myself. I am allowing myself and I am truly living. And That is what LIFE is about. Go where your emotions are guiding you. Always.

With Great Love

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Calling You Out on Your Bullshit Misconceptions About Love…

Calling You Out on Your Bullshit Misconceptions About Love…


This is a long post and there is not much mention of Twin Flames, but the concepts are very import an for everyone, especially for the Twin Flames. It is worth the read.

“That love that knows no bounds…. I’ve never regretted giving into love… Giving into love has always provided me with the most exciting experiences I have known in my lifetime…”


There is something to be said for this thing called love. This thing that we experience that turns our world upside down and causes us to do things we never thought we were capable of. This thing that changes us inside and out. Reframes our perspectives and causes us to see things in a whole new light. This thing that inspires us to break our own rules. To see things from another person’s point of view and to reach heights of empathetic understandings that we have never reached before. To evolve in ways we never could previously comprehend and to come to see ourselves and others in a whole new way.

It’s the best gift ever. But for many reasons, we are deathly afraid of it! Afraid of being vulnerable. Afraid of being rejected. Afraid of loving and losing. Afraid for reasons we don’t even dig deep enough to understand. The human race has given love all sorts of attachments and definitions that just don’t belong.

We have made love crazy, painful, dangerous, irrational, illogical, impractical and irresponsible. Love is actually the opposite. Love is the most logical thing one can do. But we often make the mistake of thinking that when you love someone, that love calls you to become their doormat at some point. Now, that is far from the truth. Let’s get it straight. At no point in time does love mean being a doormat or doing anything that does not serve you in order to put the best interests of another above your own. That is never my teaching and never the teaching of any spiritual teacher who knows what they are talking about.


There is never a time when love will require you to take an action towards another, that is not also a self-loving action. True love expressed towards another will simultaneously be an act of love unto the self. 

Otherwise, it is not love. It is something else. Then, it becomes action rooted in pain, guilt, fear or obligation. None of those things are love. We have attached many of these concepts to love, but don’t get it twisted, love is love and nothing else. It’s that simple. You have to examine the root cause of your intention in order to know if you are acting in love. Love does not act out of motivation to gain or for fear of losing, love simply acts out of courage to follow the inspiration of love. Whatever that may be.

If I love you and I want to act out of love for you, but I hold myself back in some way because I am afraid of you knowing it. I am afraid of losing you or freaking you out, of being vulnerable, or of the possibility of rejection, then, I am acting out of fear. Not love. This is when love becomes difficult and uncomfortable. When we screw with it, hide it, try to make it something else, try to contain it, pace it, regulate it, and put it in a box with a pretty bow for the sake of appearances.

We fuck with love all of the time… And then we say that love is the problem? Ha!

Most of us are cowards. Most of us see weakness in love, instead of strength. Most of us see vulnerability as a problem, an issue, as something that would be better to avoid. Only a coward would come to this conclusion! Because it is an act of cowardice to need validation from an outside source. From a source that is outside of yourself, and that is what we are messing up this love thing with. The need for others to react to us in a certain way or to view us in a certain way. What would happen if you loved yourself enough to just be yourself, whoever the fuck you are, not worrying about or needing any outside validation? You would be authentic. You would have the courage to follow your joy. You would be actually LIVING instead of holding back on life and love. Ultimately, you would have a much better chance overall, in achieving fulfillment, because the people who are going to matter to you are going to love you for who you are and they are going to have great appreciation for your courage to be authentically you. This is something that is just not common enough among humans in general. The ability to love one’s self enough to give the self permission to just be who you are at your core. Permission to live authentically. That is freedom. Freedom is love.

Love begins with the self. With self- realization and self love. Only a person who truly loves themselves can demonstrate what it truly means to love another. Love does not require you to do anything for another person that is not good for you or that you do not want to do. This is where the self love comes in. When we value ourselves, and give ourselves permission to be ourselves, we will be able to understand that we are not responsible for the way that another person feels about themselves. This understanding is what allows you to make healthy decisions for yourself. You are not responsible for the way that another person feels or for their reaction to you. When you love yourself enough, you will not be manipulated into staying with someone for the wrong reasons or into doing something that you do not want to do and calling it love. Love doesn’t do that. Here is what love does…


Love follows the path of most joy.

Love is authentic, and therefore…

Love is courageous, daring, honest, open and expressive.

Because love is authentic, love is freedom. Freedom is love.

Love does not know any other way but to be itself.

On a level that most people are not even aware enough to ponder,  there is an illusion. An illusion that we readily accept as a truth.  The illusion of rejection. That rejection is a possibility. This is only an illusion, a perspective. I will tell you why… Yes, a person outside of yourself could “reject” you or not accept you as you authentically are. We have all had these experiences. But, it’s an experience, it’s how you feel about it that matters. How you feel about it or react to it is what shapes the experience for you. Have you ever been “rejected” by someone you truly did not care about? Someone you didn’t feel you needed even a microcosm of acceptance from? How did that feel? Did it even feel like rejection? Did it feel like anything at all? Did you even give it any thought? Probably not. We have all had these experiences. Let’s get to the root of it. You can only be rejected when you feel that you can be rejected. At some level, we put more credence in certain other people than in ourselves. We hold the opinions of certain other people as weighty and valuable and worthy. We compare ourselves to others and when we find someone who we think is “worthy” smart, cool or valuable, suddenly we feel like their acceptance of us carries weight. As if their opinion has anything to do with our level of value, worth, intelligence or coolness. At some level, at some point, we hold the opinions of others, or their perspective about us as more valuable than our own. This happens on small levels, it happens on larger levels, it happens all the time and with everyone. There is really no exception. It is part of the human condition. It’s something that we battle with for all of our lives because it is part of the fabrication of this thing we call ego. And, we all have ego. I may be writing this article, but I see these things in myself. I exhibit them as well. Even knowing all of this, I am still subject to all that is part of the human condition. I am saying this because there is a very important point to be made here….

Ownership comes before change.

I am pointing out my own vulnerabilities to you so that you may do the same for yourself. There is no one who is reading this who can proclaim exemption from the human condition. The only difference in being aware is that you can  see when the feelings come up, what they are and what the true intentions are behind your thoughts, words and actions. With awareness to all of that, there is more leeway, more ability to deliberately choose which path you will take in any given situation. When I feel the urge to do something and I am aware enough to see if it arose from fear. I can stop, examine it and make a new choice. This only comes with awareness, ownership and self-love. We are all human, but we can shift from 3rd dimensional ways of thinking and being and into 4th and 5th dimensional levels of thinking and acting, on a moment to moment basis.

Love is really not so complicated. If you eliminate the idea of love meaning that you can’t put yourself first and love another at the same time, and if you eliminate the idea of needing any type of validation, acceptance or reaction from another, then we can begin to see love in perspective. For what it truly is. Love is freedom. So, are you loving freely? Are you holding yourself back? Are you acting out of fear? Or are you acting out of freedom and love? Are you being totally authentic? Have you done the work to figure out what that means? Fears, preconceived ideas and obligations aside…

Humans are reluctant to love. We are reluctant to give in and to express ourselves from the core of our being. But to be authentic is such a gift. Authentic expression is such a satisfying experience. It’s one thing to have an experience and to keep it bottled up. It’s another thing to be able to express yourself authentically and to know that you are understood. To see eye to eye with another. It’s a great gift, one of the best. But you can’t get there when you have reservations about it. You can’t get there if you won’t allow yourself. You can’t get there if you are ruled by fear. There are many people out there who are ruled by far and don’t even know it. Let me clear something up for you… If you don’t know what it’s like to love with all your heart; To love fully, passionately and uncontrollably; To fall in love, then you are ruled by fear. Something is holding you back, because everyone has the capacity to love, you’ve just chosen not to go there. To slow the process. To be extra cautious. Am I saying that it’s ok to throw caution to the wind when it comes to love?


Let me tell you why…

Love isn’t without reason. Love always has great reason. If you love someone, there is a reason for it. To deny yourself of experiencing that is to deny yourself. There is always a lesson to be learned and that is what love is about. You gotta learn to follow your heart. Let yourself. Allow yourself. Go with it.

Follow your heart…


Don’t put love in a box. Sometimes, the reason for loving someone isn’t what we think it is. It isn’t always so that reunification can occur and we can be together with them in the end. You have to remember this when it comes to your Twin Flame. It isn’t always so that we can learn to mesh and be unconditional. Unconditional doesn’t mean forever loving someone else, even to our own detriment. There’s a balance happening here. Sometimes we learn unconditional love, as far as learning to transcend a situation while residing within it and sometimes we are learning unconditional love by moving on.  Transformation is continual. When the lesson is over, the overtaking feeling of love will be gone too. Love will not stay for no reason. So, the best way to move forward without wasting time and to get through your lessons quickly is to give into the love that you feel without holding back. With no reservations. Go into it.

That which you are drawn to and interpret as a feeling of love, joy, passion, and excitement, these things are all good for you because this is the way that the body interprets things that are representative of you. Your core essence. This is why following your heart is so key. You will be drawn to that which is good for you in one way or another.

If you want to know the truth, dive in head first. If you want to know how someone feels about you, let them know who you are. Let them know your truth. There are only two possible outcomes. Either that they will feel the same way and your relationship will explode into deeper, more passionate, more blissful, harmonious levels, or they won’t feel the same way that you do. There’s no black or white. Anything can happen. maybe they will catch up with you. Maybe you’ll have to deal with certain levels of rejection and try to overcome that on smaller levels. Maybe you’ll have to deal with it on a larger scale. maybe you won’t have to deal with it at all. One thing is for sure. Once you learn the lesson, you move on from it and onto different people, different circumstances and different lessons. So, get through it. Don’t hold back, because you are just holding out on your lesson. let yourself fall. Let yourself be authentic. Imagine two people coming together who are authentically into each other, authentically in love and authentically expressive about it. That’s what you want. You can’t have that if you never get there, yourself. Give yourself some slack. Give yourself some room to love. I love you so much. There is no end to my love for you. I will keep believing in you, even when there is no reason to, because I choose to see you through the eyes of love. I will keep being honest with you, even when it may be difficult to do because I honor you.

Honor yourself. Let yourself be who you are. Be who you are. You are love.

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