Re-Prioritizing What You Need In A Soulmate…

Re-Prioritizing What You Need In A Soulmate…

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“This post led me directly into Union by way of assisting me to the ‘recognition’ that everything I wanted in a man was actually standing right before me. If you can check off all these 9 characteristics, you’ve got one heck of a match!!”

-Elise

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Fireworks, overwhelming magnetic attraction, chemistry that keeps you feening for more, romance, passionate roller coaster rides, undying infatuation and obsession over an ideal that doesn’t exist, but just won’t quit.

It’s like the ultimate ride. Good, bad and everything in between, being inspired to deeper levels of love than you thought was humanly possible.. well, it just makes it hard to let go. It’s true, Intense connections are something we in inately long for, but they are truly hard to come by. Deep inside, we are all passionate creatures and we naturally want to be inspired to experience the greatest depths of love, beauty and connection… So, when we do experience it, we tend to hold onto it…

We are emotional creatures. Creative creatures, we are made from the fabric of love and we are drawn to the dreamy. The heart wants what the heart wants and when it calls, it is more than difficult to ignore. How can you ignore a feeling? How can you tune out the calling of your soul? The very tugging of your own heart, which knows no way to lie. There’s no way to ignore That which comes through you. In your body, in your mind, in your heart center. You can change a thought, ignore what’s infront of you, but you cannot ignore that which comes through you, the deepest cries of your soul…

Love and passion is more than an ideal thought, it’s a state of being. It’s the truth of who you are. It’s undeniable. It takes over. And under the right circumstances, it haunts you.

We fall so easily into the trap of wonderlands. We can be so intensely attracted to someone, that we overlook the most basic necessities.

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It’s like, we are so enraptured with our emotions, we don’t even see the blatant negativities that make us incompatible. We hold onto hopes and dreams so dearly, that we don’t even see the most obvious factors staring us in the face. Factors like, He’s just not into you. Factors like, there is no relationship here. Factors like, there’s no reciprocation, and it’s just not mutual. Excuses, excuses. The hardest part to overcome is knowing that someone loves you, regardless of their action, or that they could, if only…

As eccentric and spiritual as I am, as much love, hope and belief as I have within myself… At some point, we need to have balance.

We are in a human world.

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And we’ve got decisions to make…

At some point, you have to stop pushing against that. Pushing against what the Universe is trying to show you. Pushing against the facts that are presenting themselves, in your face. Things can transpire, but holding on for dear life is never part of the formula, it’s a demonstration that you aren’t trusting the universe. When something is meant for you, it comes easily! You don’t have to hold onto it for dear life and hope it does not slip away! The Universe does not make you beg for what is rightfully yours! So, if something is just not sticking to you, if it’s just too difficult to maintain, that is the Universe’s way of telling you that, that thing does not belong in your field. We are meant to have everything that we want, but you have to let it come to you. If you do not believe in the Universe’s ability to deliver, you will never experience the truth of it.

love can be a sickening, twisted adventure, to say the least. We make all these assumptions about what we need, but here is what happened to me…

I came to an even deeper appreciation for love through the realization that mutually shared love is truly hard to come by. As a result, I decided to implement some logic. Logic for the sake of opening more doors through which the Universe Would have more opportunities to deliver.

I decided to focus on what’s really important. I decided reprioritization was in order.

I had so many things on my list of things that I wanted in a man, that NOBODY was making it through my filtration system. So, I made a decision. Either, sit around with my nose in the air and wait forever, for the perfect guy. Or, open doors for the Universe To deliver more opportunities and experiences and see what happens. I decided to demonstrate my trust in the Universe.

I started asking myself  “What is most important?”

what’s most important?

Chemistry. Chemistry was my first answer, which leads to…

…Love.  Which conquers all.

Trust, trust is a must.

What else?…

 Reciprocity

Above all, a relationship needs to happen mutually, or there can be NO relationship. Reciprocation requires 2 people, both people involved. One person only equals half the formula and if there is only one of you participating, you’ve got zero. The reason I am bringing this up is because we WANT our relationships to be mutual. We WANT a relationship where both sides reciprocate their interest in the relationship. If you haven’t got that, then whatever it is that you are looking at is missing a non-negotiable requirement, and therefore, that means that not only do you deserve better, but you can attain it. Do not epitomize something that is not what you deserve. Do not disrespect yourself and the Universe in that way. You DO deserve better than to be treated like you are an option. You DO deserve better than to be taken for granted, unappreciated and turned down. Anyone who is treating you that way is not what you actually want. We want to be desired, cared for, honored, valued and loved. There is no such thing as the “perfect” one for you, who is not treating you as such. Anything less is simply not good enough. Love all you want. Love unconditionally. But realize this, what you deserve… A mutually beneficial and loving connection.

Connection, that’s super important.

You can’t have love without the right connection to facilitate romance. That’s why Connection came first on my list. I have loved many people that I just didn’t have the right connection with, and I couldn’t keep them in my life, romantically.

Those things are what matters and those things are what’s hard to come by. We need to prioritize What we are looking for and let everything else come into place. Because, if you have the most important factors in line, the rest of it isn’t going to break the deal.

my previous list of automatic disqualifications was so specific, it was like smacking the Universe In the face. Like when your parents know what’s good for you, but you think you “Know it all”. I’d rather be in love and happy with someone I never thought I’d end up with, than a lonely, stuck up know it all.

Who cares if the guy is 6’0, 6’4 or 5’8? When you’re in love, that makes no difference.

So what if he makes enough money to buy you a Tiffany diamond and a bad ass wedding? No amount of money can bring joy to a soul that is bound to a loveless, uninspiring union.

And, If he’s a super fun guy, and you enjoy your time together, but you can’t trust him and he doesn’t trust you, it just isn’t going to work.

So what if he wasn’t what you originally thought you were looking for? Love isn’t derived from a checklist and when there is mutual chemistry and love, the checklist can go fuck itself. Lol

Priorities.

Let’s talk about what’s really important. let’s talk about the factors that are actually necessary for the union that you want.

For me, this next part goes without saying, but I’m mentioning it because I’ve noticed that for many of you, it doesn’t, because you remain in love regardless.

Everything has to be mutual in order to work, period. Both parties must be interested, involved and willing to demonstrate. There must be even exchange of energy between you.

So, keep that in mind…

Everyone recommends making a “list”. But, what should go on the list?  Mine used to be pages long. Since the completion of my latest transition, I’ve come up with a much shorter list of key characteristics that I think, not only are necessary for me to have in a healthy relationship, but I think these characteristics are comprehensive,  on point, ideal qualities that are general enough to be of importance in any romantic relationship.

Chemistry

Compassion

Credibility

Courage

Consistency

Commitment

Compromise

Conscientiousnesss

Demonstration

Those apply to everyone and I’ll elaborate why. The following are a few that I tailored to my specific needs:

Intelligence

Open-Mindedness

Masculinity

Chemistry- You need to jive. You need to be attracted to one another. You need to have a connection,,enjoy eachother and want to be Together. Chemistry must be mutual. If the demonstration is not mutual, something is missing and the relationship won’t work.

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Compassion- You gotta be with someone who cares enough to at least try to be understanding. We ALL need that sometimes. It’s a part of being able to love another person and demonstrate that. Compassion fosters kindness and many other attributes we need and desire in a mate.

Credibility- Credibility is like trust, but it’s more than that. You can trust someone who doesn’t have credibility. You want to trust them, but in the back of your mind, you are still doubting. You’re choosing to trust them, but you’re thinking it could be a mistake. That’s not credibility. Credibility is when someone has done what it takes to prove that they are trustworthy, forthright and honorable.

Courage- Courage is a door opener. Nothing happens without a bit of courage. It takes courage to make a move, it takes courage to be vulnerable, it takes courage to give someone a chance, it takes courage to work together to overcome issues and it takes courage to love.

Consistency- Consistency is very key, for a few reasons. First of all, if someone is inconsistent, you’re not seeing who they truly are. They are conflicted in some way. And you can’t commit to a person who hasn’t even come into themselves yet. You just don’t have any way of knowing what you’re getting into!

Commitment- At some point, commitment comes into play. Any idea requires commitment before you can see it transpire. I think it’s related to courage. Indecisiveness can be annoying, when you’re ordering dinner, but in a relationship, it’s completely detrimental. Commitment isn’t about marriage. People get married all the time, and you find that they aren’t actually committed to it. Commitment is a state of being and it changes everything, because when you’re committed, you make the healthiest choices available for that thing you are committed to. When you’re not committed, your decisions will reflect that and it’s not at all conducive to maintaining a healthy dynamic.

Compromise- Every human is different. No matter how similar you are, or how well you harmonize, compromise will undoubtedly come into play at some point. If you are both willing to compromise for the sake of harmony, you will overcome problems before they even become problems.

Conscientiousness- This goes further than compassion. Compassion is being able to feel for another person. This could happen intentionally or unintentionally. Conscientiousness is intentional. You are being mindful of the other person’s needs and thoughts on purpose, because you care and you want them to know it. You are anticipating their needs, before they’ve even thought of it or said anything. You are consciously paying attention to them, looking out for them and caring for them. It’s not only caring, but proving that you do, with your actions. This is very important in building and maintaining credibility and a loving bond.  We pay attention to the things that we love and for those things that we love, we are also willing to act in their best interest, without being told or reminded.

Demonstration- You could have all the care in the world, all the love in the world, but if you cannot follow through with demonstrating that, it doesn’t matter. Nothing translates if you do not demonstrate. Everything must be demonstrated in order to make any bit of difference. You use all kinds of means for this. Words and actions come in multiple forms. There are no excuses in the world good enough to excuse lack of demonstration. Sorry.

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You could have all the ideas in the world, but it’s all for nothing if you cannot demonstrate.

I have put this list together and explained it for you all, because intention is a good foundation for attracting what you desire. Focus on these qualities that you want in another, know that the Universe can deliver and use them as your guide so that you don’t settle for less. Sometimes, we know something is off, but without a sensical articulation, we let things slide. This list will let you know exactly what’s there or what’s missing. Add to it to suit your individual needs and preferences as I did, but remember that the point here, is to focus on what’s really important in order to open doors for the Universe to bring it to you. The Universe does deliver pleasant surprises, and that can’t happen if you think you’re ahead of infinity, with every single detail laid out! Demonstrate your trust in the Universe and the Universe will deliver.

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5 thoughts on “Re-Prioritizing What You Need In A Soulmate…

  1. To me it does not make sense to reach unconditional love by coming up with a shopping list of conditions such as these.

    Do you feel that your messages are still being channeled from the same source? I notice a big difference in tone compared to your messages from last year. I get the feeling that your messages are becoming more and more relationship oriented, instead of founded on growth and illumination.

    I undestand that each situation is unique, but the truth is that your earlier messages really ressonated with me on a deep level, but not the recent ones.

    Nonetheless, I sincerely wish that your current happiness is everlasting, and that you have indeed reached your desired destination already and that this is not just another stepping stone. 🙂

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    1. These are new, evolving concepts. Being stuck on a person who isn’t demonstrating love is an indicator of two problems. Lack of self love and lack of faith in the universe. This is why the catalyst causes growth. Growth that causes you to love yourself enough so that you aren’t in pain about someone who isn’t valuing you. Love and pain do not have to go together. The list i created is simply an articulation of how to tell if a person is a good choice for a mate. These qualities must be present in a harmonious relationship. Unconditionally loving someone who doesn’t return your love is one thing. Knowing your worth and what you want in a union is another. That’s what this is about. Know your worth and dont settle for less. Self love doesn’t settle for less.

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  2. True love is unconditional. When I met TF I realized immediately that the “list” of qualities wasn’t what I was looking for but instead was a specific soul. You can love someone who isn’t yet able to give it back without pain. You just have to face your issues/blocks and transcend them. Which I feel is one of the main points of this experience. I think its perfectly fine to be happy with your new soulmate as long as you are not “not loving” your TF because he isn’t giving you what you want in this moment. As stated above I wish you happiness…but like most relationships…they are awesome and harmonious for awhile. Don’t toot your horn too much as it may not last. There seems to be a clear judgment of those of us who are choosing to work through the TF experience. It is known that many do in fact come together after many years apart. Its an individual choice to wait or not. As long as one is happy.

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