All of the messages here are channeled via Unity Consciousness. This is a Unified Universe and we are all in this together.
With love <3
Many of you do not know how this is supposed to go for you. You do not know what a good relationship feels like, because you have never had one. If you had, you’d still be in it and you would not be reading this! You would be with your lover! Talking with your lover in perfect harmony! But this does not happen because you do not know what to look for! You think it takes effort, when really, it is far less effort than you think. Really, it is no effort at all. You have been told many times and through many venues that love is supposed to be easy. How many ways can we convey this to you? But you still want to work hard in your relationships, hoping that will make them work and in the end, you can possibly gain some good from it, but never as much good as you could gain from joining with the energy that makes the union effortless and easy. You need to know what to look for. There are many people out there and it is so easy to see potential. You need to know that every second you are not within your union, you are preparing for it. That is what is happening. So, let the preparations begin! You need to know what to look for so that you are not settling. The longer that you are willing to settle, the longer that you postpone the union that you are really wanting to occur. So you see, the two are connected. Once you are not needing to settle, you are showing the Universe that you are ready for more. That you do not have anything more to learn from those other energies that are not serving you.
This process of experiencing relationships that are only leading to a more fulfilling relationship is necessary. The point is to work out the kinks in your energy so that when the right one comes along, you can recognize him. People come our way to assist in our process of evolution. Until you feel settled within yourself, you cannot attract a person to feel settled with. So, suitors come along to bring out energies in your field so that you can identify them and resolve them. When these energies are no longer in your field, you can then link up with someone who, instead of reflecting back what is unresolved within you, they reflect what is resolved within you.
So, what does that feel like?
We often fall for people who give us butterflies, make us nervous and jittery… But its too much work to be with someone who makes us nervous. It’s too much work wondering how much someone appreciates you, or notices your good points. It’s too much work wondering if they are going to call you tomorrow or change their mind about you. It’s too much work to be praying that they don’t see your flaws. It’s too much work wondering if they think you are good enough for them.
The right person for you will not inspire you to walk on eggshells. Being with them will not cause you to feel self doubt, nervous and they will not make you feel insane. It will feel so natural to be with them that you will notice those types of thoughts just vanish. Instead of being more self doubt or nervousness, there will be less. being with them will be easy and effortless. This is the way it is designed to be and this way is consistent with the idea of following your joy, which is the path of least resistance. The path of least resistance is the easiest and most natural way to flow. It is the path that is inspired by joy and leads to more joy, every time.
There are an infinite number of variables when it comes to the energies of relationships. The one thing that will always be true is that good relationships flow easily. Everyone has the ability to meet someone truly suited for them, it is simply a matter of being a vibrational match to that circumstance. Simply remember this. That the Universe is never asking you to settle. When someone comes into your life, go into it knowing that they might leave just as swiftly as they came and that, that would be ok because there is no lack, and losing them simply means another is on the way. Once you begin to embody an energy that doesn’t settle, you will attract a relationship that reflects that. In order to get there, you may have some evolving to do. As long as you remain hopeful and expectant, you will hit all of the points that you need to hit in order to get you to where you are wanting to go.
Here is what to look for in a relationship or potential relationship:
- Look for interaction to happen easily and naturally. You’re not waiting on him, he isn’t waiting for you, there is an ease around communication.
- You should not feel afraid. A person who inspires fear or unease is not going to be the best match.
- Balance. The relationship should be mutual. Sometimes it can take some time to sync up, but for the most part, the balance will be pretty close to even.
- There is no lack. You should not feel a sense of lack or that something you desire is not happening.
- Peace. Being with the right person just feels peaceful. The opposite of nervous or anxious.
- Everything should feel good and natural
- It isn’t difficult to progress, progression happens naturally or with little effort.
- Communication is easy and each party should feel content in giving honesty and that they are receiving honesty.
- Supportive. Each partner should feel supported and feel that they can offer the same, energetically speaking.
- Resonance. It should be easy to exchange ideas and see eye to eye.
This all seems pretty simple, doesn’t it? Well, yes, it is quite simple, yet most relationships aren’t characterized by the list above. Use this to help you gauge people out. If someone makes you nervous, if you feel like you need something they aren’t giving or you tend to hit a lot of snags in the relationship, this isn’t reflective of the best possible match for you. So, simply keep all this in mind and don’t cling to anything unnecessarily. It is important to know that there is no lack in the universe and there is no lack when it comes to providing the perfect partner for you. People come and go, but a lesson learned is a lesson learned. Let people come, offer their lessons and leave when they have served their purpose in your life. Relationships are meant to be good! Let go of the old to let in the new.
How do you know if it isn’t good?
Here is an easy way to tell. When it is truly good, there is no question about it. You would not even be asking the question “Is it good?”, “Is it good enough?” or “Is this what I want?” because the answer would be obvious. You would know, without having to question it. If you harbor doubt, then there is room for doubt. You do not doubt something that there is no doubt about. You see how that works?
Don’t settle. You know when you are. It isn’t necessary.
Demonstrate your trust in the Universe and your Ideal Soulmate will come.