Mastering Open-Hearted Detachment

Mastering Open-Hearted Detachment

This is my 75th post on Soulmates and Twin Flames!!

My story is that in less than one year, by following the teachings I channeled, which are here in this blog, I made it through to the other side of the painful Twin Flame experience and manifested and Open Heart Union and I am still here, helping you all do the same… Namaste!!

Channeled via Unity Consciousness

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There’s nothing in the world that I want more than you. I want you more than breath. I want you more than life. I want you more than I ever knew a human could. But I am only human, and you are only you. And although I want you, there is more to me than you. I will find myself, I will answer my questions, I will find the purpose of my pain. This is bigger than just me and you,

but my pain is mine and my answers are mine to find too.

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“Everyone on this journey wants to know how to get back their Twin Flame. 

Everyone on this journey wants the answer to Union.

There is only one answer.

It’s Growth.”

-Elise

You can’t stop there. You can’t energetically stalk another person, thinking that they hold all of your answers, the keys to your kingdom of happiness, fulfillment and ultimate pleasure. You can’t blame them. It’s not their fault, they are only playing a role which is part of your lesson. A reflection of your ultimate truth and it’s your job to find out just how that is so. I know you can’t see it, not at first. But if you only stop to grasp the fact that your pain is yours and caused by nobody else. Your thoughts are yours, your pain is yours, your sorrow is yours, your broken heart is yours, your ego is yours, your reactions are yours, your interpretations are yours, OWN IT!

All of you want to blame the other person. Oh, but we had this connection, we had that experience, he told me this, he flipped on me, he stopped calling, he chased me, he ran, he this, he that… Oh, but I love him, Oh it’s but I can’t get over it. I-I-I-I-I……Guess what?? YOU’RE RIGHT, THIS IS ALL ABOUT YOU! ENTIRELY!

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This is NOT about the other person. It has nothing to do with them at all. In fact, this whole Twin Flame ordeal has nothing to do with anything besides growth. Strong emotions are just a way to get you to do that. The Universe want’s you to come back to love. To understand love, to be love, to embrace love, to be completely open hearted and it uses love to draw you there. Love is a stronghold and pain is a force. This is the way the Universe inspires growth.

Stop justifying yourself with the connection you have. Stop making it ok to stay stuck. Stop making your decisions based on what they are doing. Stop trying to figure them out. Stop trying to make them grow. Stop stalking their journey. Stop thinking you are entitled to know anything besides yourself. Stop making them part of your story. Stop planning your future with them and stop holding onto the hopeless romantic idea that they are somehow, the best love you could possibly have or would passably ever want to have. This is all fairy dust!! I am not bursting your bubble, there is PLENTY out there for you. But, you do not have to be predestined with a Twin in order to manifest a future. You are so preoccupied with these ideas. Frantically trying to figure out how they fit in. Rationalizing why your mind is absolutely flooded to the brim with thoughts of them. That thinking is simply serving to distract you from getting the big picture.

  • He’s my other half
  • I can’t get over him
  • I don’t want anybody else
  • There’s nobody else out there for me
  • He’s my ultimate
  • I just know we are meant to be

You think that because you had/have an AMAZING, outrageous, undying connection that it’s special? That it means something? You’re right, it is special and it does mean something, but it doesn’t have to be for the reasons you think… beth21 Every tarot reading tells you about your future together. Every psychic confirms it. Everything is a synchronistic event that validates your knowing of what’s “meant to be”. You’re giving you’re future children names, you’re planning a life, you’re believing in this future, simply waiting for them to evolve and get on board with you, and all the while, what’s the point? To get what you want? NO! That is why you NEVER get what you want, because you are missing the point completely!! The point is for YOU TO GROW! And if your motivation to grow is to achieve Union, you’ll never achieve union, because you would still be missing the point. Your Twin Flame has nothing to do with that. They are just a catalyst. A messenger. A wake up call. A teacher. Just like everything else. The romantic fantasies are a distraction and if you are reading this, you probably have not manifested union, so, a different perspective is probably needed. To be fair. Romance does exist. Fairytale dreams exist. Love does exist and it does happen. But the attachment is the problem.

Listen to this next part: Love does happen.

Happen- Come to pass, occur, or befall you.

  Happen means happen. If it’s not happening, it’s not happening!! Happens doesn’t mean you have to conjure a spell, wish on a star, figure it out, win anybody over or hold on for dear life hoping that one day, you’ll manifest a union. When it happens, it simply happens. POOF! It unfolds, there it is, it happened naturally, it just manifests and before you know it, you’re living a dream. There’s never a reason to wish, hope, think and pray for year after year. That doesn’t yield results. It’s not efficient, it’s pretty much good for nothing. You will grow, but nothing will change. You will grow and you will grow, but you still won’t see the fruits of your labor. That’s what I’m talking about. We want results! But results are yielded from true change. You’ll know if you have truly changed, because the results will be there to confirm. Until then, keep reading… You have to realize that this is only about you. Leave them out of it. There is an art to this. I can tell you to detach, but there’s a very specific way to do it. People detach all the time when they are hurt. Building walls sky high to erase your vulnerability and make you indestructible is not what I am talking about. Debby There is a way to detach from outcomes because you know that you’re already perfect and you’re simply sifting through until something sticks. Whatever sticks is yours. Whatever doesn’t stick isn’t yours. Whatever happens, happens, the rest, just let it go. You follow your heart willingly and completely. You spill your guts, you dish all your authentic truths in their entirety. Follow the tugging of your heart. Tell them exactly how you feel and don’t hold back. If they turn away, you have to be ok with it, because you know if they were actually for you, they would undoubtedly reciprocate. Make no mistake about that.

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Attachment is the only thing holding you back from making complete transitions.

Attachment means you are needing something outside of yourself.

Non-attachment + Open Heartedness means that you aren’t seeking anything outside of yourself.

The fulfillment and freedom comes from the ability to authentically embody express and yourself to your core and to be detached from outcome, all at the same time.

Most people fall into the trap of retracting open heartedness after being let down.

No matter what you tell yourself, that’s an indication of residual attachment. 

If you are doing that, you have not truly changed.

A master is revealed by the ability to remain open and detached from needing anything, even in the face of unideal outcomes. 

You can rationalize that things don’t always come easy, but when you use this formula, they can. Because this is what the Universe is trying to get you to do. To be you and to allow complete “surrender”, which equals trust, in the process. Learn this formula and practice it. Not only in love, but in life and in all relationships. This is a state of being. It can take months of continual self deliberation to achieve. We are talking about a making a massive transition. It’s a process, but this is key and it’s correct no matter who you are because this is Open Heartedness, which is love. Use every unideal outcome to test your ability to consciously embody this energy. It can take many let downs and many demonstrations to the Universe to fully come into your new energy. Once you have mastered this, things manifest!!! Manifestations can also occur instantaneously, but we are all different and the results can vary.

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8 thoughts on “Mastering Open-Hearted Detachment

  1. Another brilliant article, thank you! I am in exactly this process,your words resonate deeply with me and are a gift. I may contact you for a reading although I’m pretty clear on what I need to be doing or who I need to be Being,rather, but your perspective might be helpful too. Blessings ♡♡♡

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    1. One good thing about the readings is that I help bring to the surface things that have gone unnoticed or swept under the rug. It’s difficult for us to see ourselves through another perspective, but the reading provides this and it definitely helps. I have availability today!
      Hope to hear from you soon!

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  2. Wonderful advice…and the channels are amazing. I’d like to know your opinion on what you think the male (or runner or other half) is learning from this experience. What is the other half going through in learning their lessons? What do they feel when they see us teaching out in desperation …when they see us struggling so hard with this. What do they then feel and deal with when we pull back? That would also be interesting info.

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  3. Awesome Article! After reading it I realized that my issues were my fears of abandonment, low self esteem and insecurities. I wasn’t confident that I was enough just as I was.So I held back on expressing how I felt. I did the whole psychic reading thing and everyone said that they see a strong, long term future ahead but no matter how many times I heard it, it wasn’t enough. I went through a horrible divorce a year ago so for me feeling love was scary because I love unconditionally without a judgement and most people don’t understand it or take advantage of it. And unconditional love is nothing that can be explained either. So I put myself out there knowing that it could be the end of what I thought I had or a new beginning of what I knew I had all along. I sat in uncertainty as I spilled my guts. I was fine with sacrificing our companionship because I was being true to myself. And if he wasn’t for me there was no need for him to stick around. Needless to say things are still going along great and I really let go of wanting the manifestation because I am already living in it. ❤ There is nothing more rewarding than being true to yourself and being authentic with your feelings regardless of what the outcome may be.

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  4. I LOVE your realness! Lol and Spot on knowledge from spirit themselves. Thank you.
    Question: what are some actions we can take to steer the focus ONLY on ourselves and not on our flames? I’m going through the same LESSON OVER &OVER bc I haven’t. Grrrrrrr…..i feel insane and exhausted ready to pull up anchor and get this ship moving. :
    ::Destination= *My Soul Purpose*

    Heeelp

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