Twin Flame Blame

Twin Flame Blame

We all do it. Lets talk about how to stop doing it and how to use it to help us turn within and grow.

Pain is what motivates us to pass blame. Check out this post I channeled when I discovered the REAL reason for my pain was not my Twin Flame…

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Hopefully, this resonated. There are so many ways to see the TF/Love situation. Probably more options than you think! It’s complicated, and yet simple. It’s about how you feel. I know that sometimes, it’s even hard to figure that out. With all the push and pull, back and forth and feeling like you have no more options. That’s why, even though the trying part of my journey is over, I have chosen to stay here and help you through yours. There are things I would have given anything to know earlier. If I had only gotten that remote healing before I quit my job, had a manic episode and came down with depression, you know?? Well, this information is valuable and life changing for many. That is why I am here, offering it to you. Each situation is unique and that is how I approach them. If you are having a hard time, confused, or tired of being between a rock and hard place, Check out what might be the right fit for you. I will always offer insight you didn’t have before, and Remote Healing (included in the TF reading) is nothing to be taken lightly!

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The Real Reason For The Pain For Your Twin Flame…

The Real Reason For The Pain For Your Twin Flame…

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I know that this may be a difficult concept to consider, for many of you. But, hear me out. There’s no harm in it…

I thought that my pain was caused by the separation from my Twin. I was wrong…

My pain started before that. Before I knew what he was to me. Before I consciously established the connection. Before the Twin Flame run even began. I called it dark night of the soul. It came over me and I was cloaked in it. In the confusion, in the overwhelming hopelessness and pain. No apparent rhyme or reason. No way out. It was pain that was there. It simply existed. There was nothing that I could do except bask in it. Accept it. There it was. I let the tears flow. I don’t know any other way… The Twin Flame run occurred after that and the pain continued, but let’s not get this mixed up. Let’s understand what pain really originates from.

I understand sadness. I understand what it feels like to be drowning in dark, merciless waters of pain. So much heartache. Not knowing how to make it stop. Utter despair and praying for the end to come. The end of me. The end of the pain. Either which way, when you’re in that place, it doesn’t seem to matter how relief befalls you. You just want it to come. You just want to see the light of day again. To feel like you have some good reason to live for. Or to die and to cry no more…

I reached this point of awareness in the midst of my pain, on a few occasions… A point where I looked at the pain. I studied it. I observed it. I tried to see where it was really coming from. I went into it. I felt the pain outside of the circumstances. I separated the reason from the pain. The pain didn’t disappear, it was still there, but I realized something…. That the pain wasn’t attached to anything. It was just there. It wasn’t there because of my situation. It wasn’t there because of my Twin, or because of the separation. It wasn’t there for any reason besides that it just existed. It was something that was already there. Something that needed to be looked at and dealt with. Something that was crying out for attention. Crying out for action, movement, energy, acknowledgement and change.

We attach reasons to our pain. We try to rationalize it, to make it logical. We blame this person, or that thing. We justify that our reactions of pain are perfectly valid, given the circumstances, but that is a lie. You see, you could have 10 different people all experience the same thing and they could all have completely different reactions. The circumstances don’t cause the reaction, you do. You are the one who reacts to your circumstances. Your reaction is your reaction, it’s something that is already there. Something that already exists within you, and whatever is already inside of you will come out when it gets a chance.

Circumstances are just the excuse for the existing shadows to come to the surface to be seen, transcended and transformed.

This why we test people. To see what’s inside of them, to see what they’re made of.

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What are you made of?

At the core of your pain, there isn’t anything to blame. There is no circumstance that is causing it. That is just an illusion. We think that if circumstances would change that we would feel better. The truth is that when we overcome the pain that already lives inside of us, we then allow for change. Pain comes up to show you that it’s there, not because of some outside circumstance. There is no outside circumstance that could cause you pain if the pain wasn’t already there.

I know it is difficult to see this. I know that there is pain involved with separation and that the way that we experience it  points to the idea that the circumstance is to blame for the onset of pain. But, the circumstance is just a trigger for something that is already there. If it were the circumstance which caused the pain, then it would be impossible to overcome the pain unless you could change the circumstance. The reality is that it is possible to overcome the pain, even if the outside circumstance stays the same. This means that it isn’t the circumstance which causes the pain. The reason it is important to note is because this understanding is the jumping off point to empowerment. You should know that you are not at the mercy of your pain, even if you cannot change the circumstances.

So, stop blaming your Twin, or the separation for your pain. Stop thinking that you can’t escape it. Stop thinking that you are being inflicted with a painful experience. It’s just an experience. Your reaction is your creation.

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Be aware of your pain. Look at it. Study it. Go into it. You will see, it’s only pain and it can go away just as swiftly as it came. It isn’t attached to anything. It isn’t attached to you. You are not married to pain. It isn’t following you around. It isn’t your ball and chain. It’s only pain. It’s only there to show you something. Become ultra conscious of it and you will allow it to show you what you need to see. Circumstances, people and events aside.

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How to Overcome The Pain For Your Twin (Part 4)

How to Overcome The Pain For Your Twin (Part 4)

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You can only see through the eyes of your own perspective, but perspective is subject to change.

Pain is a state of being. A lens that the world is viewed through. A perspective, birthed and supported by beliefs and definitions. All of this which is subject to change. “Rose colored glasses” is a common term for the perspective of love. The lens of love that we look through when we are inspired into this perspective. Your world will look different depending upon the type of lens that you are looking through. Your world will hold different meaning depending upon the lens that you are looking through. The lens that you are looking through will influence your interpretation of everything that surrounds you. Are you looking through the lens of love? Are you looking through the lens of victimization? Are you looking through the lens of insecurity? Are you looking through the lens of pain?

The lens of pain

Don’t be silly, there is always a way out of pain. You just have to decide it for yourself. You have to drop expectations. You have to stop trying to force your way out of pain. You have to just decide that it’s ok to be in pain, because, it is. There is nothing wrong with being in pain. Pain is a sign of growth. Growth that must know pain for some reason. For a chosen reason. A reason that can serve its purpose when you decide. When you learn that love is the only way out. When you are able to give yourself a little push and do things that you know are good for you, even when it seems difficult. Be brave. Have the audacity to see that there is a way out of pain.

Take off the lens that sees through the eyes of pain and embrace yourself. Be ok with your state of being. You are worthy, even when you are in pain. You are good, even when you are in pain. You are right, even when you are in pain. You are ok, even when you are in pain. There is no lens that you could look through that could change your divine nature. Your divine nature is real and eternal. You are that which you are and there is no way out of that or around it. Everything else is just a lie. An illusion. A perspective. Your divine nature is truth, whether you choose to see it or not. Whether you choose to embrace it or not. But, for the sake of convenience, you may as well, embrace yourself, forgive yourself and accept yourself, even when you are in pain. Paradoxically, when you stop pushing against your state of being and surrender to it, loving yourself regardless, suddenly, you are seeing through the eyes of love. Through rose colored glasses. That’s the idea.

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When one is looking through the lens of pain, pain comes up a lot more. The glass is always half empty, instead of half full. Negative emotions come up at times when they could be avoided. Negative thoughts come up when there is positivity to be seen. It’s all in perspective. The way that you choose to see it. The thoughts that you choose to entertain from your perspective are what runs the show. Everything else will follow. So, take off the lens that you see pain through. Take off the perspective that shows you the most pain. Put on a perspective that sees self love and self acceptance. That is where salvation begins. With knowing that it’s ok to be in pain and when you choose to not feed into pain’s perspective, things can begin to change for you. Everything does’t have to change suddenly. Things can change over time. In each moment, all you can do is try to be going in the right direction and stay in self acceptance and love. Be ok where you are and you will attract more of that. One thought at a time. One loving step at a time. You will be ok. You will be fine. There is great love here for you. We are all in this together.

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How To Overcome The Pain For Your Twin (Part 3)

How To Overcome The Pain For Your Twin (Part 3)

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There is still one more thing you have yet to discover about pain. Part 3. This is the part that is simply rooted in your consciousness. Do you identify with pain? Do you call it by your own name? Do you give it a home in your mind? Do you share your bed with it? It is helpful when you remember that pain is not a part of who you truly are? It’s not an element of your essence. Pain is a lie and is always just an illusory experience. Pain can come and go. It’s an entity all unto itself. It’s a perspective. A state of being. It’s not you and it’s not a part of you. You can be friends with pain for a very long time. Letting it tag along with you everywhere that you go for years and you can make a clean separation at any time. You can choose to end your relationship with pain at any time, no matter the history. You are in charge. Did you forget that? Have you been letting pain take over you life? Playing hide and seek? Running from the pain you are so badly wanting to overcome and never succeeding….

Where is your consciousness? Your awareness to your ability to make choices? When you can recognize that pain is an entity unto itself that needs your cooperation in order to exist, consciousness cannot be far. Give pain a name. Call it Bob, or Red. The point is to recognize it as something that is outside of yourself. Something that is not you. Something that is not attached to you. Something that comes and goes. Something that  you can allow to pass by you. Something you can witness. Something that you can make a choice to associate with, to feed or to starve.

Pain is just pain. It doesn’t have power, only you can give it that. Pain doesn’t have a place, only you can give it that. Pain doesn’t have any ideas, only you can give it that. So, you see, just like any friend or acquaintance, you can choose to associate with it or not. You can choose to feed it with your thought and energy or not.

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Love the one who is in pain

Pain isn’t what is important here. The one who is important in this equation is you. When you are in pain, what are you telling yourself? Are you telling yourself that it is ok to be in pain, or are you bar-rating yourself about it? Are you telling yourself that it happens sometimes and it’s ok?  That is what you are being asked to do. Be your own best friend. Stand strong by your own side and instead of fighting against the pain, let it be. Stop fighting it. Be ok with it and tell yourself that if you are choosing to be in pain that it’s ok. Some of you say that you do not choose pain, but it’s as if pain chooses you. On some level. it is always a choice, so that is why alternative focuses of thought are being offered here.

Don’t fight the pain…

…Love the one who is in pain. tell yourself that you are ok no matter how you decide to show up. Be ok with being in pain. Be ok with it. Paradoxically, this will soothe the pain. Maybe not all of it at once, but it will open the door to freedom. It will get you going in a direction that is self loving and that is where all possibilities live. When you feel bad about yourself because of your pain, it is like compounding more pain ontop of the already existing pain. It does you no good. Self degradation and judgement are not self-loving actions and will not help you solve this problem of pain, but will only make it worse. Self-realization and self-acceptance are like the light that begins to light the way for the truth and beauty of you to be seen. Let the light shine. See pain for what it is. An entity unto itself. A homeless thought form that has no home, no motivation, no place to be, except for  that which you give it.  You can invalidate pain by validating yourself. Be careful with your thoughts. With what you choose to focus on. Be blind to those things that you know bother you and fill your head with other things. Pain needs food to live. Don’t give it any.

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How to Overcome The Pain For Your Twin (Part 2)

How to Overcome The Pain For Your Twin (Part 2)

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My Twin Flame told me how he felt about me. I didn’t make it up. It was mutual. It happened. It was real. But, as you all know, there’s always a problem, and when push comes to shove, it was all over. I asked him if he meant it. He said that he did, and then he said something else…

“Does it matter?”

I’ll never forget those words. Why would he say that? I couldn’t understand it. I just knew that it felt bad. I get it now. Those are the words of someone who has given up. Someone who has relinquished their freedom to go with their heart. In his mind, there was no other choice. So, it didn’t matter.

I didn’t understand it because I never put myself in a corner. I never relinquish my ability to choose.  I didn’t understand that type of thinking. Although I understand it now, it’s still difficult to relate to.

Here is what I want you to know…

Dear Twin Flame, it matters. You can’t help that. You can’t stop it. There is no ceasing, no running, no stopping. This love is like a waterfall. It flows with a strong current and when you feel pain, that’s when you’re trying to go against it.

You can’t talk yourself out of love. You can’t cut the cords.

“I love him so much. Nothing soothes the pain. Nothing takes it away. nothing makes me forget. Nothing else is good enough. There is nothing that could ever replace him in my heart. No substitute. No other way. My thirst for you will never be quenched. Never satisfied outside of you. My desire for you is too great. This is a gut wrenching love. I am consumed in my sorrow. My heart, body and soul mourns for you. My sadness won’t let me forget my love for you. My sadness reminds me of how I miss you.

My Desire…

You are a part of me and I can’t have it any other way. My heart knows no other. No distraction is enough. I laugh at the idea of replacing you. There is no such thing.

I love you. “

I know that it is hard to live this way. I know that sometimes, it feels like there is no escape. It feels like all is lost. It feels like you can’t move on. Like it’s the end of the road and life becomes one great big chore. We just go through the motions, wishing, hoping, thinking and praying for change. Missing the Flame that set our souls on fire. So close, yet so far. If only…. If only they would return. If only there was some way.

Dear Twin Flame, don’t invalidate your feelings. Don’t try to cut the cord. It is impossible to do, anyway. Don’t make it wrong that you feel the way that you feel. That’s the first step. Being loving and understanding towards yourself, no matter what you are feeling. You are human, after all.

Here’s an idea…

We live our lives in a state of disappointment when things don’t go our way. But what you aren’t considering, as you are living in disappointment is that things can change in any moment. Imagine living from that state. Of knowing that the world is fluid, malleable and is subject to change in any moment. That things can move in your favor unexpectedly at any given time.

The other side to that is that you must be in a receptive mode. You must be in a state of being that allows you to attract the types of changes that you want.

Stop thinking that your moments are predictable. They are not!

Things can change in an instant. Are you considering that?  It’s true, so do yourself a favor and remind yourself of that and move forward with positive expectation that everything is working out for you.

It only takes one. One moment, one circumstance, one person to change your life forever, for the better, and that one thing can show up at any moment. So, instead of trying to cut chords or figure out how to forget, just remind yourself that things can change and that they are changing all the time. Stop trying to stop loving. Stop trying to run away and harden yourselves. Stop living in disappointment.

There is no death sentence here. Only circumstances. There is no hard, fast, definite outcome. Anything can happen. You must see that. Don’t let yourself wallow in pain, while you could be learning lessons that get you closer to reunification.

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“The one truth you cannot hide is love”

-Dr. Henry Morgan, Forever

You create your reality. It’s hard to escape the pain, but we are doing it little by little. We are loving ourselves instead of beating up on ourselves. We are learning to love with hope, instead of doubt and we are learning that no matter what happens, we are ok. Give yourself the gift of peace, one moment at a time. Don’t smudge out the love. Don’t forget it, block it or hide it. You can learn to integrate it in and to let go of the pain. Keep the love and let go of the pain, one hopeful moment at a time.

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We are all in this together, I am here for you.